Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?

I have several single male friends. I spend time with them because they really rock my world. They are wonderful, talented, smart, handsome, generous.....all of the qualities females claim to want in a mate.

Yet, they are still single.

The major complaint I hear from my male friends is that the girls they are trying to date are "flaky" or "playing mind games".

Hear this: No relationship worth being in, romantic or otherwise should have mind games. It's time to grow up and walk away from people that want to keep you guessing about how they feel about you or what they want. It's absolutely unnecessary for people to play around with your emotions. This goes for ANY relationship you are in, by the way ( platonic, family, romantic).

Think about your past relationships. Did you ever have a "psycho" girlfriend? One that was insecure, dropped absolutely everything to spend time with you, controlling, jealous....cried on the phone a lot, made mountains out of molehills?

Yes?

Then you know THAT side of how women can be. You don't want that, right? So, why would you want the opposite: someone that cancels plans all of the time and really could care less what you are doing or whether they see you or not? Obviously you want a confident woman ( and if you don't, that's a whole other ball of "twisted" wax) and someone who isn't controlling or jealous. But, we all want someone who WANTS to spend time with us. There is a happy medium between the psycho and the non-caring. It's called a mature, rational and loving human being.

Hear this: If they cancel the first date, give them a pass. If they continually change the details of dates or flake out on you at the last minute THEY AREN'T INTERESTED IN YOU.

They are likely more interested in the fact that you are interested in them. AND they likely have something/someone else they are exploring the possibility of at the same time. Stringing you along as a consolation prize has no consequence to them.

People will show you who they are and how they will treat you very early in your relationship with them. PAY ATTENTION.

There's a saying that "nice guys finish last". And you know what? If you continue to enable these women to play games with you, you will finish last. You will finish alone.

The myth that women are not like men when it comes to dating is FALSE. Just like there are wonderful men who are loyal, honest, forthcoming with their feelings, and direct, there are just as many women who are disloyal, dishonest, and play games.

Somewhere along the line, women decided that they could date like a man and have sex like a man. You need to follow your gut instinct, not your penis instinct. Learn the difference.

If you are a kind man, these women will take advantage of you. If you let them.

You will not change another human being. You cannot make someone fall in love with you. You cannot trick them into loving you by engaging in mind games with them.

People decide early on if you are special to them, and they want to spend time with you.

You will know it. Women have a tendency to binge on relationships early on. They will move mountains to spend time with you and make you feel like the only man on the planet.

When that happens, pay attention. It's not a trick.

Hear this: Stop spending time with people who don't make you a priority.